If you are reading this you are most likely a single Christian woman who would like to get married one day.
Maybe you are in a relationship that you hope will turn into a lifelong commitment. Or you may be completely alone and wondering if a man will ever fall in love with you.
Whatever situation you may find yourself in today, you want to trust God with this area of your life – and that is the best thing you could ever do with your love life.
But it is hard!
Like so many other areas of life, we want to control this area, too. But when we do, things can go very wrong. Maybe you have already been hurt and bruised from trying to be in control of your romantic relationships. If this is you, come and find rest in trusting God to care for you in your love life.
This post is all about how to trust God with your love life.
How do you trust God with your love life?
1. Know the meaning of marriage
The first step in trusting God with your love life is taking a step back and understanding why he created marriage in the first place. Marriage is something we deeply long for but if we do not understand what its ultimate purpose is, we will not be able to trust God fully for it.
God created marriage at the beginning of time. When He created Adam and Eve, He joined them together in marriage and they became “one flesh” (Genesis 2:21-25). At that time, the institution of marriage was established and the earth was populated.
Throughout scripture, there is a theme of a marriage relationship between God and his people. In the New Testament, the mystery of marriage was revealed and explained most clearly in Ephesians 5. Paul says that marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church. (Ephesians 5:21-33). He says that the relationship of a husband and wife should reflect the love and sacrifice Christ had with the Church. This is profound!
Marriage is not about you. It is about pointing to Christ. It is a physical union that points to a heavenly reality.
This paradigm shift helps us put marriage in its right place and trust God to glorify Himself in it. When we make marriage about ourselves and fulfilling our needs, we seek to control it. But when we understand that marriage is actually about God and glorifying Him, we realize that there is no one better to trust in this area than Him.
God is the creator of marriage and He wants you to enjoy it to the fullest to bring Him glory. A married couple glorifies God in marriage by enjoying marriage in all its God-designed fullness. How wonderful is that?!
If you want to glorify God in your current love life and future marriage, give it to Him. Trust Him to lead you to a man who also wants to glorify God in marriage. Trust Him to lead you to the most fulfilling marriage possible – in Him. He wants you to enjoy marriage even more than you want to.
This Momentary Marriage by John Piper is a wonderful resource if you want to go deeper in understanding God’s design for marriage.
2. Trust that God wants what is best for you
When you understand that the purpose of marriage is to glorify God and that you glorify Him by enjoying it as He intended it to be then you can understand the next point.
God wants what is best for your love life.
Many times we can be afraid that if we surrender our love life to God, He will join us with a man we are not attracted to at all and will be miserable with. This is the furthest thing from the truth!
God is not out to make you miserable. On the contrary, He wants to help you live the fullest most joyful life in Him! Trusting God with your love life will make you happier than if you kept full control of it and never surrendered it to Him.
“Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him! Oh, fear the Lord, you his saints, for those who fear him have no lack! The young lions suffer want and hunger, but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.” Psalm 34:8-10
Those who seek the Lord lack no good thing. God wants to fill your life with His goodness and blessings. Not with dullness and boredom.
If you want to know how to grow your trust in God read this post THE SECRET TO TRUSTING GOD
3. Trusting God means walking in faith
Lastly, trusting God means walking in faith. It does not mean you just sit around and do nothing.
Trusting God with your love life means being an active participant in the process.
This means that you live daily obeying God and trusting that He is sovereign over all things.
It means being faithful in the work He has placed in front of you today. It means being friendly and hospitable to those around you. It means seeking Him, reading the Bible, and growing in your faith.
Our walk with God is just that, a walk. He leads us step by step. We do not need to know the full story. We need to be faithful in each step and He will faithfully guide us.
As you walk in obedience to God, He leads your steps, and when you least expect it, He may lead you to a godly man to marry. A man who is also seeking God and wants to glorify Him in marriage. It is a beautiful thing when two lives collide because they are both going in the same direction and seeking the same God.
That is what every Christian woman should want. A man who is doing the same thing she is doing. Seeking God, obeying Him, and actively trusting that God will lead him to a godly wife who wants to glorify God with him.
Wrap Up
This journey is hard. Trusting God with my love life was one of the most challenging and faith-stretching times in my spiritual walk.
Yet God was so faithful and so good. He led me with a gentle hand and showed me that He was worthy of my trust. I also learned that waiting on Him is never a waste of time.
Keep leaning into Him. Wrestle in prayer. Ask God to deepen your faith. You will never regret it.
May your faith and trust grow as you continue to walk with God!
With Love,
Jessica Ruth
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